Friday, April 28, 2006

Birds Of A Feather...NOT

My ex-fiance was a wonderful guy. I'll give him that much. But he was immature in a lot of ways. (Not to say I was the most mature person considering how long I stayed in that situation.) Or maybe 'country' would be a better word. He was too ragged around the edges and lacked refinement and even simple manners sometimes. I'll never forget the day I introduced him to a girlfriend of mine. She had come up from Jamaica and her cousin brought her by my house to say hi but they weren't going to stay. I went out to the car and told her I wanted her to meet my fiance. He was sitting on the couch in the living room watching tv, I believe. Anyway I brought her in the house and he didn't stand. I'm hard-pressed to say he even offered a handshake. To me, that was embarassing. In general, he swore he was smooth. He liked to put on an air of overconfidence that's hard to explain; he was vain. Then he went to another extreme, getting overzealous in his Christianity, IMHO (became a vegan, wouldn't shave, etc.). In the end it was still hard for me to break up with him. Actually, if you ask him he would say it was mutual. Uh huh. I returned his ring once and he begged me to take it back which I did. Before I returned it the second time I wasted time trying to make sure the split was mutual. Maybe the time wasn't wasted. Maybe sparing his feelings was the right thing to do? I don't know. It was a learning experience for both of us, that's the best I can say. He's been married for a few years now and I rarely see him which is fine. I have never seen his wife and I know it's a girl thing but I want to see what she looks like. Go figure.

Have a good weekend!

7 comments:

Shawn said...

If you want to see his bride, why haven't you asked to see a pic? :-) Why you trying to be all sneaky? LOL

Are you saying he is an extremist? And lacks balance? Do you think he goes overboard with everything he does to try an impress people?

chele said...

I know what you mean about the no-manners thing. My ex husband would leave the room when people would come by ... how rude is that? Not say hello, or shake a hand, and he used to wear his hat inside!! It drove me crazy but it's hard for me to correct "grown" folk on stuff like that when their mama should have taught them better. Regarding seeing the new wife ... I'm with you on that. When I saw my ex's fiance for the first time I was on a stage singing. She's been insecure about me ever since. I know it's a girl thing but I get a small sense of satisfaction from that. ;)

princessdominique said...

Yeah we can't help seeing the woman...I wonder if there is a term for that...

SP said...

Oh no, you cannot ask for a pictures. That implies you care and you don't want that. I think things have worked out for the best. Had it not been for everything that happened you wouldn't have K and the kids. These things are part of what make you who you are.

nikki said...

i'd want to see a photo just to confirm she's uglier than i am. :)

meanwhile, what sp says is right...asking for a photo implies you care. he'll take it the wrong way no matter how you put it.

Mocha_Grl said...

lol...curiosity is a hell of a thing isn't it?

noagenosexnocity said...

Getting out before you get in is way easier (in every sense of the word) than getting out AFTER you get in.