Tuesday, April 25, 2006

With the ding dong quote I was referring to "Ring My Bell" by Anita Ward. Sorry if I stumped you.


I was accepted to Spelman College as a freshman but I would have had to move to Atlanta by myself. At 17 I wasn't ready to venture out just yet so instead I moved to South Florida with my mother and attended F.A.U. (which us students used to joke stood for "Find Another University"). How did that choice affect who I am now? Could I be more vain and elitist than I am? lol


I knew I didn't love him. My twisted logic was that he was a good man who was all into me and I could be a good wife to him. According to my mother we fought all the time. I didn't notice. I did notice that a lot of times I found myself almost embarassed to be with him in public. Not a good sign. We made it all the way to pre-marriage counseling. At one point we had individual sessions with the counselor. He asked me straight out if I loved the guy and I told him no. We talked a bit more and, of course, he told me I shouldn't marry him. So, I didn't. I was 24 years old.

Contrast that with my current situation. I met K and within two weeks I knew he was the one for me. I didn't tell him. I waited and waited to see something I couldn't live with or tolerate but I never did. Six months later we decided to get married and three months after that we were married.


American Idol - Who's going home?? I'd say Kelly or Taylor.


chele said...

You were smart to make the decision you did regarding college. Every 17-year old isn't ready to be that far from home. I know I should have stayed closer to home.

Shawn said...

2 years? dang.

Brotha Buck said...

Curious, what was it about the other guy that made you embarrassed?