Monday, November 07, 2005

The Eye

There's a guy I know, an acquaintance, who's been giving it to me lately. The eye, that is, not "it." I started noticing it about a week ago. My immediate instinct was to continually act as if I didn't notice. I still do that. But I did mention it to my husband. He found it amusing. I told a friend of mine about it (benthebald) and he said my reaction was the best one. Anything else would be letting the guy know that I've noticed his attentions, and that would in effect encourage him to continue. I guess so. It's just a strange position to be in. I'm married and he knows it; he's married and he's knows I know it. Yet still.... Yes, it's nice to be "appreciated" but it's not so nice to be given an unwanted invitation.

I plan to continue on with my tact of acting as if I'm missing his cues. Hopefully he'll give up whatever it is he's trying to do.

5 comments:

The Gig said...

Good going Shelly, I'm glad you are ignoring the temptation. That's admirable.

NeenaLove said...

LOL... the fun, for him, is probably in the chase... and your COMPLETE "naivete" approach.

SP said...

Ignoring is all good, but if it doesn't stop, you need to tell him. He may just think you are playing it hard to get. Make it clear that his actions need to stop and remind him of his marriage vows because maybe he forgot!

Aziza said...

I used to think ignoring a guy would give him the hint. But some guys love the chase. Nevertheless, he should really leave you alone knowing that you are married.

Anonymous said...

i don't think i agree with what Tiff said. regardless of what kind of spirit you are giving off - he should respecting both of your bounds. because you have a beautiful, kind, welcoming spirit - you should be subjected to people that can't control themselves? what about all the other people that are able to enjoy and relish in your beautiful spirit - they should be denied, because of 1 person?

i agree with ben... don't assume you know what he is 'looking' at. and that is soooo true, about women needing to 'resolve' - even if 'resolving' something, just stirs it up even more! ;-)