Wednesday, July 13, 2005

Is that so wrong?

SP and I sort of share a mutual friend. I say "sort of" because this friend is much more SP's than she is mine. But anyway, this friend is having a going-away get-together. I plan on attending but I can't afford a going-away gift. Tell me: do I have to buy something in order to be welcome?? When I told SP I wasn't bringing a gift, she looked at me like I was crazy. But I'm not kidding. A card I can do but that's about it. I tend to be quite a generous person. My friends know that. I'm frugal, but I when I have some dollars I spread the wealth. I would expect that my friends also understand that if I can't give, it doesn't mean I've switched to being cheap, it just that I don't have the means.

Regardless, should I not go or will a card suffice?

3 comments:

Aziza said...

It really depends on the friends involved and how they perceive things. If the person is going to get upset about not receiving a gift, I guess shying away from attending the party would be understandable.

As for me, I would want all of my friends to attend my party whether they come bearing gifts or not. I understand some of my friends' circustances. Plus, I feel like the Lord has blessed me with so much that I don't feel comfortable excluding people.

Aziza said...

Oops. Please excuse my typo. I hate my typos. I really meant to type the word "circumstances."

SP said...

I was just teasing you. You don't have to get her anything. She doesn't expect anything nor will she turn you away for coming empty handed. She doesn't even need a card. Just come. I wasn't going to get her a going away present. I am only bringing something because her birthday is the 20th and she always gets me stuff for my birthday.