I apologize for the confusion. I was a busy bee the other night (when I took a half) and so I ended up with three posts in one evening.
And, I know, I'm such a tease, promising new looks and stuff. Don't worry. A change is coming. I'm still working late though so it'll have to be next week sometime.
Wednesday, June 29, 2005
Monday, June 27, 2005
Can We Do Better?
Edit: Hubby wants ya'll to know, that this post is not referring to our relationship.
Men are just as complex as women. I don't think that fact is emphasized enough. Men are expected to be 'men'. But they have feelings too. Just because they may not cry does not mean that they don't hurt. I came across an interesting post yesterday, "I now believe that it's not really sex that I crave. Nor is it love. I have both already. The sex could be better and more frequent, but it's not like we never, ever do it. And the love is there in abundance. No, it's not sex or love that I crave. It's desire. And by that I mean that I crave a relationship with a woman who really, truly desires me. A woman who lusts after me." This was written by a married man who loves his wife. Women, why do we let our men suffer like this. I know, we're not the only guilty party, but let's focus on our part for now. If your man doesn't feel desired, he will look for someone who will desire him. Don't doubt it. He WILL. And you know what? He will find someone or someones who will do for him what his woman won't. And then what? If and when he cheats, whose fault is it? Yes, he's grown and he can choose to not break the vow. Biblically, his woman can leave him. But is she really an innocent party?
My questions then are, what can we do to keep our men? How do we keep them interested? What big or little things can we do to show our desire for our mate?
Men are just as complex as women. I don't think that fact is emphasized enough. Men are expected to be 'men'. But they have feelings too. Just because they may not cry does not mean that they don't hurt. I came across an interesting post yesterday, "I now believe that it's not really sex that I crave. Nor is it love. I have both already. The sex could be better and more frequent, but it's not like we never, ever do it. And the love is there in abundance. No, it's not sex or love that I crave. It's desire. And by that I mean that I crave a relationship with a woman who really, truly desires me. A woman who lusts after me." This was written by a married man who loves his wife. Women, why do we let our men suffer like this. I know, we're not the only guilty party, but let's focus on our part for now. If your man doesn't feel desired, he will look for someone who will desire him. Don't doubt it. He WILL. And you know what? He will find someone or someones who will do for him what his woman won't. And then what? If and when he cheats, whose fault is it? Yes, he's grown and he can choose to not break the vow. Biblically, his woman can leave him. But is she really an innocent party?
My questions then are, what can we do to keep our men? How do we keep them interested? What big or little things can we do to show our desire for our mate?
I took a half day from work today. Girl issues. They don't usually plague me so I knew something was 'off'. Went to the doctor's instead. After ordering a pregnancy test and an ultrasound he left me to myself. So I sat. And I wondered. And I started psyching myself up, preparing for the worst. Another miscarriage. I tell you, I almost started crying right there in the office thinking of all the horrible things that could be wrong. What if I couldn't have any more kids from some complications or something? Well, turned out I was worried for nothing. (Or so he said.) My 'timer' was off a little bit. Not a miscarriage cause the pregnancy test came back negative. So I went home and rode my bike.
Sunday, June 26, 2005
Let's Talk About Me, Shall We?
O, why not? It's my blog. May as well show the vain side of me (like you've never seen that side of me before).
Recently I asked a couple of my friends what makes me desirable. (I know, this assumes that I am desirable, but I thought that was a safe assumption to make.) And I got back some interesting answers...
1. It's just you. You know when you just like everything about someone and you can't put your finger on why exactly you find them attractive? (My response was "No, I always know why I find someone attractive.)
2. Smart and slimly sexy
3. You have never been anything less than a lady... anything less than caring, respectful and attentive.
4. Intelligent.
5. Funny.
6. Good to talk to (when you finally open up).
7. Nice figure.
8. Opinionated (there are men that DO NOT like that trait in women).
9. Covertly sexy.
10. Difficult\impossible to “conquer.”
11. I liked your voice (hubby said that one)
12. Nice smile. I liked your teeth. (hubby said this one too)
I'm not sure why I asked them that question. Maybe I was feeling like an old married woman, I don't know. But they made me smile. That's what friends are for. Thanks guys!
Recently I asked a couple of my friends what makes me desirable. (I know, this assumes that I am desirable, but I thought that was a safe assumption to make.) And I got back some interesting answers...
1. It's just you. You know when you just like everything about someone and you can't put your finger on why exactly you find them attractive? (My response was "No, I always know why I find someone attractive.)
2. Smart and slimly sexy
3. You have never been anything less than a lady... anything less than caring, respectful and attentive.
4. Intelligent.
5. Funny.
6. Good to talk to (when you finally open up).
7. Nice figure.
8. Opinionated (there are men that DO NOT like that trait in women).
9. Covertly sexy.
10. Difficult\impossible to “conquer.”
11. I liked your voice (hubby said that one)
12. Nice smile. I liked your teeth. (hubby said this one too)
I'm not sure why I asked them that question. Maybe I was feeling like an old married woman, I don't know. But they made me smile. That's what friends are for. Thanks guys!
Friday, June 24, 2005
Today is my anniversary!
Four years and counting.... I always say I wish we got married earlier but I wouldn't have been ready for him. So, I have to make the most of what time we do have. Maybe buy a lei and grass skirt a la Tiff. :) Or maybe just a lei? hehe.
Sunday, June 19, 2005
To All The Men In My Life
For the love of men, I have to say HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!!
I've mentioned it before but it can't hurt to say it again - I have been so blessed by the men that God has put in my life throughout the years. They have inspired me, taught me, protected me, encouraged me, loved me. I am so grateful for them. ALL of them.
I have friends who are fathers. I am always amazed at how time has flown. Most of them I have known since college. The days of carefree youth, fun, studying, our whole lives ahead of us. Now we're the grown-ups, the responsible ones. Happy Father's Day to You, my friends!
My stepgrandfather was the father I never had. I love him so much. He was the first man who ever apologized to me. He didn't have to. Back in my day, children had to respect their elders whether the adult was right or wrong. He didn't have to apologize to me. An adult saying sorry to a child was unheard of. And at the time I was so surprised I didn't know what to say. But I never forgot. And when it was my turn to apologize to him, I did it not because it was expected of me, but because I respected him so much I felt he deserved it. Happy Father's Day to You, Yappy!
My father-in-law is so amazing. He's the sweetest man and he treats me like a princess. He embraced me from the beginning. He's calls me "daughter." Anything I ask, I know he will oblige. Happy Father's Day to You, Dad!
My husband is the love of my life. He is everything. He is my heart. He's my baby daddy. (Sometimes he's my daddy. Is that TMI?) I want him in my life forever. One of the things that attracted me to him in the first place was parenting. He loves his children. He wants the best for them. I knew he would be a good father if we had children together. We only have one right now. I'm working on making that "child" a "children." Happy Father's Day to You, Baby! I love you.
SP lent me some books last Friday. I started reading, "The Devil Wears Prada." I'm so superficial, I know.
Btw, I added SP to my blogroll. Check her out.
I've mentioned it before but it can't hurt to say it again - I have been so blessed by the men that God has put in my life throughout the years. They have inspired me, taught me, protected me, encouraged me, loved me. I am so grateful for them. ALL of them.
I have friends who are fathers. I am always amazed at how time has flown. Most of them I have known since college. The days of carefree youth, fun, studying, our whole lives ahead of us. Now we're the grown-ups, the responsible ones. Happy Father's Day to You, my friends!
My stepgrandfather was the father I never had. I love him so much. He was the first man who ever apologized to me. He didn't have to. Back in my day, children had to respect their elders whether the adult was right or wrong. He didn't have to apologize to me. An adult saying sorry to a child was unheard of. And at the time I was so surprised I didn't know what to say. But I never forgot. And when it was my turn to apologize to him, I did it not because it was expected of me, but because I respected him so much I felt he deserved it. Happy Father's Day to You, Yappy!
My father-in-law is so amazing. He's the sweetest man and he treats me like a princess. He embraced me from the beginning. He's calls me "daughter." Anything I ask, I know he will oblige. Happy Father's Day to You, Dad!
My husband is the love of my life. He is everything. He is my heart. He's my baby daddy. (Sometimes he's my daddy. Is that TMI?) I want him in my life forever. One of the things that attracted me to him in the first place was parenting. He loves his children. He wants the best for them. I knew he would be a good father if we had children together. We only have one right now. I'm working on making that "child" a "children." Happy Father's Day to You, Baby! I love you.
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SP lent me some books last Friday. I started reading, "The Devil Wears Prada." I'm so superficial, I know.
Btw, I added SP to my blogroll. Check her out.
Thursday, June 16, 2005
Look Out!
A change is gonna come. Funny thing is, I've been planning to change the look of my blog but I've been so busy (you know - b.u.s.y). And I'm noticing that quite a few others have gone through some changes also. Mine will come. I 'stole' some time today to work on a new logo. Soon to be unveiled...I hope!
It'll be friday in a few minutes. I'm so glad. I'll get some much needed rest this Sabbath!
It'll be friday in a few minutes. I'm so glad. I'll get some much needed rest this Sabbath!
Reading
I recently finished reading "Gotham Diaries" by Tonya Lewis-Lee (Spike Lee's wife) and Crystal McCrary Anthony. Excellent Read! I wished the story didn't end. But now I'm left feenin' for another book to read. Yes, I have my stash but those books are packed away in boxes. Does anyone have any recommendations on a good next book? Fictional or not, it doesn't matter.
Monday, June 13, 2005
I'm Not Guilty
Or am I? Should I be held accountable for my apparent neglect of my blog? Certainly you jest! I'm not guilty on any counts of intended neglect. But do you remember my job? The one I love? Yeah, that one. Well, they have me under a strict deadline. I should be working right now, but I don't feel guilty. My brain needs a break. I've been pulling these crazy hours. Even coming in on the weekend! *gasp* I miss my family. I have pictures all around but that's no substitute for the time I'm losing, missing out on Sid's developments. I know, it's only a month out of my life, but so much can happen in that time. My only solace is that Sid isn't spending all of his time at daycare - he's there about 6 hours a day, sometimes less.
I miss reading you all too. I don't even have time for that. By the time I get home my husband tells me to go to bed so I can wake up the next morning and not be so tired. If he catches me online....
Oh, the good news is my business (conference) trip to Vegas at the end of July has been approved (yay)! I'm looking forward to it, can you tell? Pics will definitely follow!
I miss reading you all too. I don't even have time for that. By the time I get home my husband tells me to go to bed so I can wake up the next morning and not be so tired. If he catches me online....
Oh, the good news is my business (conference) trip to Vegas at the end of July has been approved (yay)! I'm looking forward to it, can you tell? Pics will definitely follow!
Monday, June 06, 2005
Spend Update
Ya'll would never believe! Someone gave me a 20% off coupon for Macy's that expired today. So, I did the logical thing: I brought all my shoes back and re-bought the two I intended to keep. I REALLY made out like a bandit!
Savings 1: in Orlando I paid 6.5% tax; in FLL I only paid 6%
Savings 2: the Unisa's were on sale for almost half off plus I got 20% off
Savings 3: I returned the black Unisa's
I'm so excited! I know Tiff and SP are exited for me too.
On the downside, we all went to the dentist for our biannual cleaning. My mouth hurts.
Savings 1: in Orlando I paid 6.5% tax; in FLL I only paid 6%
Savings 2: the Unisa's were on sale for almost half off plus I got 20% off
Savings 3: I returned the black Unisa's
I'm so excited! I know Tiff and SP are exited for me too.
On the downside, we all went to the dentist for our biannual cleaning. My mouth hurts.
Verdicts and Such
Black vs Pink Unisas: As much as I LOVE the black Unisas, they're going back. I was apprpriately reminded that nice black pumps are easy to find while pink ones are not.
Anne Klein vs Versace: Definitely keeping the Versace glasses. Still on the fence about the AKs.
Just finished reading The Hamptons.
Currently reading Gothem Diaries.
This weekend we went to a couples' retreat in Marco Island. The kids, of course, we left with various respectable guardians. Sid stayed with his favorite teacher from daycare. He didn't ask for me all weekend. But he did ask for his Daddy a couple of times after two days of not seeing him. So while I was half-agonizing over how he was doing he wasn't even thinking of me! Regardless, we had a good time. Don't think I need to fill you in on the agenda this time though.
Anne Klein vs Versace: Definitely keeping the Versace glasses. Still on the fence about the AKs.
Just finished reading The Hamptons.
Currently reading Gothem Diaries.
This weekend we went to a couples' retreat in Marco Island. The kids, of course, we left with various respectable guardians. Sid stayed with his favorite teacher from daycare. He didn't ask for me all weekend. But he did ask for his Daddy a couple of times after two days of not seeing him. So while I was half-agonizing over how he was doing he wasn't even thinking of me! Regardless, we had a good time. Don't think I need to fill you in on the agenda this time though.
Wednesday, June 01, 2005
Pictorial Review
My Versace glasses and Coach watch
My Anne Klein's
My gold sandal pump thingys
Black Unisa's
Or pink Unisa's?
My Anne Klein's
My gold sandal pump thingys
Black Unisa's
Or pink Unisa's?
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