Tuesday, June 13, 2006

I never thought I would feel protective of my husband with respect to his own children. I mean, really!

The one boy has the nerve to say in his father's presence that his absentee mother is his best friend next to God. Ok, I understand the phenomenon where kids hate the parents they're living with and the one who's not around is perceived as the 'good' one. I can almost live with that despite the fact that I don't like it.

Then there's the girl who is a habitual liar for reasons unbeknownst to me. On the one hand, when she's with us, she makes out her mother to be the monster but when she's there she portrays her father as mean and restrictive. Which, he's never mean to her, but he does enforce rules of cleanliness and proper conduct. He can say one word to her and she'll do things her mother can't get her to do with any amount of yelling. Anyway, last weekend was the girl's birthday weekend. Her father never heard from her. We both called and left messages, emailed, went and knocked on the house door sat & sun nights. You can imagine his concern when no one was able to contact anyone in the household, and esp. consider the fact that every weekend (at least for the six years I've been in their lives) the girl comes over to our house. If she can't make it for whatever reason she always calls or she tells us when we call to arrange to pick her up. This past weekend was inexplicable. And when I found out the extent of her lying and manipulativeness I got so angry. When we finally reached her (about 8 pm last night) K drove over to her house ready to confront her mother only to find out her mother was not the problem. It's too much to get into in one post but just saying that the girl erased the messages left on her mother's voicemail gives you a clue.

5 comments:

chele said...

It's hard being a step parent ... you think you should be a silent observer but when you see stuff like this going on how can you be silent?

SP said...

What?? Oh no!

notyouraverage.... said...

Really? When did this begin with her?

Shawn said...

Is there any meaning behing you referring to his kids as "the boy" and "the girl?"

That's too bad that your hubby's kids are so disrespectful and unappreciative of his love and support. There are kids growing up without a dad who'd give a limb for their dad to be involved in their lives; and these little monsters act like they'd prefer he not be around. Those kids need some counseling and an ass whoopint for good measure.

Brotha Buck said...

I can relate. My daughters mother is a bonefied witch. And my daughter knows it, though I don't try to push the issue. But I can't stand to hear her paint this lie about her wonderful mother, who's making her crazy. Literally.